The TMC Mindset
The Human Feedback Loop
The Path to Uncommon Results
Most people dream big but play small—not because they lack the ability, but because they unknowingly sabotage their own success. If you want uncommon results, you must take the uncommon road, which requires identifying and rewiring self-sabotaging patterns that hold you back.
This discussion breaks down:
1️⃣ The Two Selves Within You – Understanding the battle between your Survival Self (Lower Self) and Abundant Self (Higher Self).
2️⃣ The Feedback Loop – How your brain filters reality and creates your experiences.
3️⃣ The Upward & Downward Spiral – How your beliefs and actions shape your future momentum.
By mastering these mental maps, you reclaim control over your life and business.
The Human Dilemma: Why We Sabotage Ourselves
Every person has two distinct selves competing for control:
? The Survival Self (Lower Self) – Seeks safety, avoids risks, procrastinates, fears rejection, craves comfort.
? The Abundant Self (Higher Self) – Embraces discomfort, takes action, grows through challenges, pursues long-term success.
These two versions of you are at war, influencing every decision you make.
• Your Survival Self wants to keep you in the comfort zone.
• Your Abundant Self wants to push you toward growth and success.
The problem? Most people believe the voice of fear, self-doubt, and limitation as truth, rather than recognizing it as a pattern that can be changed.
? The only thing stopping you from becoming who you want to be is the identity you keep reinforcing.
Your Lower Self thrives in scarcity, blame, and self-doubt. Your Higher Self operates from ownership, growth, and abundance.
The key is learning to recognize when your Lower Self is steering—and choosing to shift control back to your Higher Self.
The Human Feedback Loop: How Your Mind Shapes Reality
At any moment, your brain is processing millions of pieces of data, but can only consciously handle 134 bits per second.
To manage this overload, your brain distorts, deletes, and generalizes information based on:
✔ Past memories
✔ Core beliefs
✔ Emotional patterns
✔ Conditioning from childhood
This means you never see reality as it is—you see a filtered version based on what you expect to find.
• If you believe you “always fail”, your brain filters the world to confirm that belief.
• If you believe you “aren’t good at sales”, you ignore any successes and focus on failures.
• If you believe “people don’t want what I offer”, every rejection reinforces that assumption.
? Your mind isn’t showing you the truth—it’s showing you the version of reality you believe in.
And that belief system drives:
✔ Your mental state (confidence or self-doubt).
✔ Your body language & physiology (powerful or closed-off).
✔ Your actions (consistent effort or procrastination).
Which then reinforces the results you experience.
This loop can either create an upward spiral (success, momentum, confidence) or a downward spiral (fear, hesitation, stagnation).
Breaking the Downward Spiral & Creating an Upward Spiral
? Example 1: Downward Spiral
- ? External Event: A potential client doesn’t respond to your follow-up email.
- ❌ Filtering through a limiting belief: “No one wants to work with me.”
- ? Mental state: Hurt, embarrassed, discouraged.
- ? Physiology: Slumped posture, shallow breathing, low energy.
- ? Behavior: Stop reaching out to clients.
- ? Result: Lack of new business, reinforcing the belief that “no one wants to work with me.”
? Example 2: Upward Spiral
- ? External Event: A potential client doesn’t respond to your follow-up email.
- ✅ Filtering through an empowering belief: “They’re probably busy. I’ll follow up again.”
- ? Mental state: Confident, determined, enthusiastic.
- ? Physiology: Standing tall, breathing deep, feeling energized.
- ? Behavior: You persist and send a well-crafted follow-up.
- ? Result: The client responds, and you land the sale, reinforcing the belief that persistence leads to success.
? Your external reality isn’t the problem—your mental filter is. Change the meaning, and you change the result.
The Survival Pattern Spectrum
People tend to default to one of two survival strategies:
1️⃣ The Logical Type (Left-Brain Dominant)
✔ Detail-oriented, structured, organized.
✔ Goal-driven, great at follow-through.
❌ Struggles with creativity, control issues, rigid thinking.
2️⃣ The Emotional Type (Right-Brain Dominant)
✔ Highly creative, intuitive, relationship-focused.
✔ Overflowing with ideas and vision.
❌ Struggles with consistency, procrastination, and structure.
The key is not to eliminate one side—but to integrate both for balance.
? If you’re highly logical, embrace more creativity and adaptability.
? If you’re highly emotional, strengthen structure and discipline.
Your identity is not fixed—it’s simply a learned survival pattern.
? Who you are is not who you have to be.
Mastering the Feedback Loop to Rewire Your Identity
? How to Shift from Survival Mode to Abundance Mode:
✔ Recognize when your Lower Self is in control.
✔ Reframe negative meanings & create empowering beliefs.
✔ Adjust your mental state & physiology to match success.
✔ Take action in alignment with your goals—no matter what.
✔ Reinforce your new identity through repetition & real-world results.
Everything you want in life already exists as a potential reality. The version of you who has it is simply operating from a different belief system.
? What are three old identities you will take action on this week to rewire?
Your future is in your hands. The only question is—will you step up and create it? ?
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