What You Focus on Grows

Most people dwell on failures more than successes—not because they fail more, but because they’ve been conditioned to.

As kids, good behavior often went unnoticed, while mistakes got attention. In school, wrong answers were marked in red, but right ones were ignored. Over time, negative experiences stuck, making us underestimate our successes.

To change this, you must intentionally focus on your wins.

Celebrate Your Successes

Success isn’t just about massive achievements—it’s also about the small wins: keeping a promise, staying consistent, showing up on time.

Think of confidence like a stack of poker chips—the more you have, the bigger the risks you’ll take. Recognizing your past wins builds that confidence.

Try this:

✔ List three successes from each phase of your life.

✔ Push yourself to find 100 wins—big or small.

✔ Keep adding daily to create your success journal.

Whenever doubt creeps in, revisit your success journal. Let it remind you of what you’re capable of.

Create a Trophy Case

Surround yourself with reminders of your wins—photos, achievements, notes. Let success be visible in your space.

Do the same for your kids—display their achievements so they see their successes daily.

The Power of Self-Acknowledgment

Before bed, take a moment to affirm yourself. Look in the mirror and recognize what you did well today. Then, say:

“I love you.”

It might feel strange at first, but over time, it rewires your self-talk and silences doubt.

Balance Your Three Internal Voices

You have three internal voices that shape how you think and act:

✔ Adult Ego – Logical, responsible. Pays bills, makes decisions.

✔ Parent Ego – Nurturing. Encourages self-care and discipline.

✔ Child Ego – Playful. Craves fun, adventure, and curiosity.

Most people suppress their child ego, but ignoring it leads to procrastination and self-sabotage. Instead, learn to work with it:

✔ If a task feels boring, tell yourself, “Let’s finish this, then we’ll do something fun.”

✔ Reward yourself for wins—this trains your brain to want to succeed.

Success Isn’t Rare—It’s a Pattern

Track your wins. Celebrate them. Reinforce success daily.

Because success isn’t something distant—it’s something you’ve been achieving all along. ?